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A Writer Turns 50

turning 50Today I turned fifty years old. My brain, stuck thinking I’m still  in my twenties, is reminded of my true age when I look in the mirror each morning prior to putting on my makeup. And that’s okay. As a writer, celebrating half a century on this planet is not a negative. When it comes to the old adage “write what you know,” I know a helluva lot more than I did thirty, twenty, or even ten years ago. Good writers rely on research to enrich their tales, and what better research is there than life itself?

I began writing at a very young age and writing has always been a part of my life, at some points more than others. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I self-published my first erotic romance short story. Since then I’ve added about a dozen more, and I’m now in the process of writing my first novel. So much of me is reflected in these stories — happiness, sadness, hope and disappointment — that simply did not exist in me when I was younger.

I’ve had my heart broken and broken a few hearts. I’ve lost a child through miscarriage and then given birth to another, and I’ve traveled halfway around the world (twice!) to adopt two more. I’ve been married and divorced (also twice), and although those relationships ended they’ve left me with a wealth of experiences to include in my writing — not all of them good, but that’s all right too. I’ve dipped my toes in the Atlantic, the Pacific, and the Gulf of Mexico. I’ve spent time in Los Angeles, Chicago, and New York City, as well as Mexico, China, and Hong Kong. I’ve been sick and I’ve been well. I’ve been thin and not so thin. I’ve been broke and not quite as broke (and I’m still working on wealthy).  I’ve hoped and dreamed and planned, and I once fell in love with a man I could not have. More than a decade later that one still hurts.

Writers are sometimes thought of as a quirky bunch, and while that may be justified to some extent, I think that we are just people determined to live our lives to the fullest, to amass as much life as possible so that we can weave rich, fully layered stories and create characters that feel real even when they are just products of our imaginations.

So I won’t bemoan entering my next decade of life —  although I refuse to agree with one friend’s assertion that I’m now a senior citizen(!) I’ll continue to add to my already vast stockpile of life experiences and I’ll continue to write — a lot. Let’s face it, fifty is barely a blip in my timeline. I’m just getting started.

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Balancing Fact With Fiction – A Writer’s Struggle

Writers write. That’s what they do. Fiction writers immerse themselves in worlds created in their own minds and filled with characters that they manipulate and bend to their will. They create stories that, whether loved or hated, become topics of discussion online and in coffee shops and living rooms around the world. I am a writer. It’s what I do. But like a lot of other writers, I struggle to find a way to balance writing with my real-life obligations.

In my fictional world, I write full time. I spend my days weaving my own stories and interacting with other people who write. When I’m not writing, I’m reading. I read romance, mystery, paranormal, police procedural, and forensic fiction, among other genres. Sometimes I delve into non-fiction and learn a new crochet stitch or improve my Photoshop skills. In my fictional world, I am a creator. I make a good living at writing — enough to support my family with a little extra for travel and other luxuries.

My factual world, however, is quite different. The fact is, I am a single mother of three kids, one in college and two in middle school. Their father is not involved in their lives; I’m all they’ve got. I am mother, father, homework helper, chauffeur, referee of squabbles, and shoulder to cry on. Another fact is that in order to provide for my kids, I work a full-time job, one that barely makes ends meet. Worse yet, I work second shift, which presents all sorts of issues, the most challenging of which is a perpetual lack of sleep. The last fact I deal with on a daily basis is elderly parents who live a few miles away and need my assistance with chores and errands, often several times a week.

Yet, within this maelstrom I write. I write because I love it. I’ve been a writer from a young age. I was the student whose teachers had to remind her to please keep to the word limit on essays because I was inclined to keep writing until I ran out of words. I have a small catalog of self-published erotic romance under a pen name that produces modest but consistent sales, but like a lot of other writers my desire is to write novels.  Unlike short stories, novels take time. They take planning and outlining. They take writing and rewriting. They take passion and dedication.

One day maybe I’ll live my fictional life and become a self-supporting writer. Maybe it will be next year, or maybe it won’t be until my kids are all grown, but someday it will make it happen.  In the meantime, I will use stolen moments late at night when I should be sleeping and weekends between loads of laundry to pound out my soul on a keyboard. I’ll plan chapters and run dialogue in my head while I’m driving the kids to school or sleepovers.  Until the day when my two worlds coalesce, I’ll find a way to balance my fiction with my fact, because I’m not willing to live without either one.

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If you’ve happened my blog, intentionally or by happy accident, welcome! The purpose of this site is to keep readers informed of my works in progress and new releases, as well as to share my thoughts and opinions on the world around me. I believe that everything I see and hear has an effect on my writing, whether it be to spark an idea for a future story, or just to enrich my overall knowledge of the world.

I hope you will check in periodically to see what’s going on. I look forward your return visit.